Is it infatuation?? Is it capable of being many different things?
I have been feeling lately that we have misconstrued perceptions of things, love, being one of them. Our minds have gotten poisoned with ideas of love through TV, radio, internet and really anything that the world throws our way. We have bought into the lie that there are so many ways that love is about feeling, and we have been taught that whatever feels good, is what we should do. To tear that to bits, look at soda...I love soda, LOVE IT!! Don't get me wrong, it's amazing...but if that's all we consume we'll be in some serious trouble...we need water to survive, and yes, there is a little bit of water in soda, but it's so minuet that it's almost not even there, so minuet that everything else in soda cancels out the nutritional value altogether. BUT IT TASTES SOOOO GOOD!! It sure does, but just because it tastes better than water, doesn't make it better than water. Sometimes drinking water is a chore for me, but if I don't drink it, sometimes my lips will get super chapped, and my body will dry out. So lately I've been drinking more water than I usually do just so I can enjoy a soda here and there, almost like candy. Too much of it though will definitely make me a little sick...and sometimes will cause a kidney stone...which btw I've had before...NO GOOD!
So, love...or rather definitions of words that we have misunderstand, or lost, or maybe never understood at all. We have lost so much because we have told ourselves that those things, those very important things are about us. But love is doing something, or being something to someone when maybe they don't deserve it. It's failing to look before leaping because it's what's best for the other person. It's taking time out of our day for more important things, like listening, learning from people. It's shutting our mouth and not having to put in our two cents at times, just so we can listen, and sometimes listening does a whole lot more good than blabbering on about how we would handle our hurting friend's situation.
I have the best conversations with myself in the shower, and I was thinking up this blog, and I thought to myself, "what are other ways we misunderstand what things really are?" Right after I got out of the shower a friend of mine called me, and was talking about his friend and how this person has been struggling through things, putting up walls, and their whole mindset was "avoid and conquer", but that isn't possible. If you want to win the battle you have to face it, avoiding it only prolongs it. Just another misunderstood situation, and I thought it was fitting, because what I was thinking in the shower was how we think that love without trust is infatuation, or some flirtatious feeling, or something along those lines. LOVE WITHOUT TRUST DOESN'T EXIST. It's like trying to breathe under water...it can't be done. We have tried to make things work that can't work, and force the puzzle pieces into places they don't belong. I'm just as wrong as anyone, and I'm only pointing the fingers at myself more than anything.
I have been feeling lately that we have misconstrued perceptions of things, love, being one of them. Our minds have gotten poisoned with ideas of love through TV, radio, internet and really anything that the world throws our way. We have bought into the lie that there are so many ways that love is about feeling, and we have been taught that whatever feels good, is what we should do. To tear that to bits, look at soda...I love soda, LOVE IT!! Don't get me wrong, it's amazing...but if that's all we consume we'll be in some serious trouble...we need water to survive, and yes, there is a little bit of water in soda, but it's so minuet that it's almost not even there, so minuet that everything else in soda cancels out the nutritional value altogether. BUT IT TASTES SOOOO GOOD!! It sure does, but just because it tastes better than water, doesn't make it better than water. Sometimes drinking water is a chore for me, but if I don't drink it, sometimes my lips will get super chapped, and my body will dry out. So lately I've been drinking more water than I usually do just so I can enjoy a soda here and there, almost like candy. Too much of it though will definitely make me a little sick...and sometimes will cause a kidney stone...which btw I've had before...NO GOOD!
So, love...or rather definitions of words that we have misunderstand, or lost, or maybe never understood at all. We have lost so much because we have told ourselves that those things, those very important things are about us. But love is doing something, or being something to someone when maybe they don't deserve it. It's failing to look before leaping because it's what's best for the other person. It's taking time out of our day for more important things, like listening, learning from people. It's shutting our mouth and not having to put in our two cents at times, just so we can listen, and sometimes listening does a whole lot more good than blabbering on about how we would handle our hurting friend's situation.
I have the best conversations with myself in the shower, and I was thinking up this blog, and I thought to myself, "what are other ways we misunderstand what things really are?" Right after I got out of the shower a friend of mine called me, and was talking about his friend and how this person has been struggling through things, putting up walls, and their whole mindset was "avoid and conquer", but that isn't possible. If you want to win the battle you have to face it, avoiding it only prolongs it. Just another misunderstood situation, and I thought it was fitting, because what I was thinking in the shower was how we think that love without trust is infatuation, or some flirtatious feeling, or something along those lines. LOVE WITHOUT TRUST DOESN'T EXIST. It's like trying to breathe under water...it can't be done. We have tried to make things work that can't work, and force the puzzle pieces into places they don't belong. I'm just as wrong as anyone, and I'm only pointing the fingers at myself more than anything.
Idk if this is going to help anyone at all, it's just been on my mind for the last 12 hours, and I've needed to let it out...
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